So far in Part I and II we have gone over the basics of grounding and protection. By now you should be at a point where you feel not only comfortable with grounding and protecting but also more confident. Before doing any thing related to developing empathy, psychic abilities or just even doing chakra work it is very important that you ground and protect. Sorry to have to be redundant but I know for myself in the beginning even though I knew how important it was I would often forget at times myself. The reality is that some times you will have a busy day and maybe you do not take the time in the morning to ground and protect because you are running late or your 4 year old decides he’s going to cut his own hair and it side tracts you. So if you got busy and didn’t do it this morning, do it now.
So in this Part III it is time to purposely feel. As an empath you get use to picking up things here and there that you are not actually attempting to. You are probably use to feeling strangers in the grocery store checkout lane without any effort and feeling that you really didn’t need to know that the cashier was in a bad mood or that the person directly in front of you has some dental problem. True. But how about using that ability to your advantage? What things can you think of that would be useful to know? Whether your boss is in a good mood or whether you need to be on your best behavior and keep your distance? Whether a co-worker has ill intentions and is planning to stab you in the back? Whether your 5 year old is lying about who broke that vase?
In order to feel there needs to be a connection to what you are attempting to feel. Just like there are many ways to ground and protect there are various ways to connect to someone or some thing. Remember that everything is made up of energy regardless of what it is. Whether it is a chair, your dog, your rose bush or your neighbor it is all made up of energy. Everything also has an different energy signature or vibration. No two are the same although to feel it may be hard to differiciate many times. The best place to begin learning to connect and to begin empathically feeling is right in your own backyard. The trees, the grass, that blooming plant you favor so much, the bird that are perched on tree nearby, that cat that is walking by on his/her way home, etc.
I will write about two different ways to connect. Before practicing it is best if you clearly understand how to disconnect, so do not gloss over that information.
When I connect to anything I visualize in my minds eye and imagine myself merging with the person or object. Okay, think of something you might see on Star Trek. You can either see yourself merging into the person or object or the object or person merging into you. Once you are conencted you should be able to feel that you are. Now this is very important…if you don’t know 100% how you feel you will have a hard time knowing when you are connected and feeling someone else. So before you say I did it and I don’t know if it worked or not, know that unless you have gotten to the point where you can discern what is your and what is not you will have a hard time knowing when and if you are connected. Hence one of the common problems of an empath, right? So what do you do? You will only learn to feel the difference by continually trying. Don’t give up because it is hard. Who said it would be easy? Not I. lol. But if you keep trying I assure you it will get easier and easier to feel what is and is not yours.
Connected, Now What?
Be still. Here is where meditating will help you. Through meditation you have learned to still and quiet your mind. Psalm 46:10 “Be still and know that I am God.” Ah ha…how many of you have heard that bible verse said? Key “BE STILL!” Quiet your mind and allow yourself to feel. Question yourself in your head and ask “What do I feel? How does this person feel? How does this tree feel?” etc. As you are connected and are starring at that tree and seeing its branches blow in the wind, do you feel it…the swaying of the tree? Can you feel yourself start to sway?
It is a good idea to keep a note book or journal on your computer to note your experiences and what you feel specifically. Because often you feel things you don’t quite know what you are feeling. If you are connecting to your best friend and you feel something strange you have never felt before area your jaw area and then later she/he tells you they had a bad toothache or just had wisdom teeth pulled, you can then connect the feeling. This is not easy. Do not assume thatyou will know what it is that you are feeling exactly. It takes time to learn what verious things feel like whether it comes to physical feelings or emotions. Sometimes you just know because you have felt the feeling before and you can tie it to something from your past experiences. Like for example, you may feel someone’s emotions and think to yourself “Oh I remember feeling this way when I was young and had to move away from my best friend.” The more experiences you have had in life I do beleive the easier it is to discern what you are feeling.
Another way to connect is through your chakras. For example, when connecting to a person you visualize that a stream of energy that is cord like is going out from your charkas and connecting to the other persons chakras. So root chakra to root chakra, third eye to third eye, crown to crown, etc. When it comes to telepathy it is similar, so if you have taken any courses in telepathy such as “SANANDA COURSE IN TELEPATHY” this will be familiar to you.
Keep in mind that when you have a connection to someone or something it is a two way street. There is not just energy flowing one way but both ways.
Disconnecting is actually very easy. The actual how to is simple. It is a matter of visualization and those of you who are great visualizers or day dreamers will find it easier. Not to worry though, the more you visualize the better and easier it will get. To disconnect from someone visualize seeing them a few feet away from you and a cord or stream of energy from you to them. You can imagine that you have a sword and you cut the cord. As you cut the cord you see the other person surrounded in a bubble of light floating up and away from you. Another method is to visualize that you see yourself pulling/yanking the cord out of them and it retracting back into you…and still seeing them afterwards surrounded by a bubble of white light floating up and away from you.
As you are disconnecing pay attention to what you feel. When you have finally disconnected you should feel a lightness or a lifting of the affects of the connections. Do a check! How do you feel? Do you still feel them? Are you aware of them and how they feel at all?
Should you have trouble disconnecting from someone…ASK FOR HELP! Ask your guide or higher self for help…ask them to sever the connection for you.
Of course I have to bring this up. Often you will feel something that someone is feeling. Regardless of your ability that is still private information. You have an obligation and a responisiblity to be moral and ethical when it comes to knowing things about people. Don’t get caught up into trying to develop your empathic abilities so much that you cross the line. Often there are things people do not want anyone to know and do not want to openly discuss with you. Just because you can feel do not feel that it is your responsibility to help someone just because you can feel them. Be very careful and if you are unsure of what to do with information you receive…that is your answer…do nothing with it and keep it to yourself.